What is wrong with being a Lone Wolf? Not a thing. Just watch your back. Just watch what you say. Identify your friends and make sure they have your back.

This author understands what it takes to be a so-called Lone Wolf. Why? I have felt this most of my life. Is it bad thing? It depends how you look at it.

As a child who had a severe stammer and one who was mugged three times, I had to look out for myself to the best of my ability. Was that always fun to do? Not always. But I did become more self assured and self aware as a result of this.

Like many, I am an only child. As an only child, I have fell into the trap of being a people pleaser. My parents. My friends. My teachers and professors. My adversaries. I will cite an example of what I am talking about. I forget how old I was but I began a group. I called this group, “The Dragons.” I invited all of my friends to join and show up to our first meeting. No one joined and no one showed up. Yes it bothered me. Yes I wanted my friends to be part of my group. Yes it traumatized me. But consequently, I was formulating my Lone Wolf status and I liked it a lot! I felt comfortable being by myself and realizing at a very young age, this may be how my life will be going forward.

Now, because of all the stressors and trauma I have endured, I have a solid core of people that I trust. My spouse first and foremost. My good friends. Some family members. And me, myself, and I for sure. I call this my team and my team has my back always. And if one slips away or goes astray, I will either find a new individual or I will not. Either way, I have come to terms that I will always have my back and best interests in mind.

Find your team of entrusted people if you can. If not, formulate your own circle of protection around you. Be a Lone Wolf. It’s your life and just be you!